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Are you wasting your fucking life?


You might be wasting your fucking life.

I don’t know if you are or not. Nor if I am or not for that matter. Because there are a great many different kinds of people out there and I’m one of them and these are based on my reflections.

I’d rather stay home.

Maybe you’re a serious introvert. Maybe you’ve planned a whole evening to yourself where you cooked some awesome food, bought a great bottle of wine and have been looking forward to it for weeks. You might be happily married and prefer the company of your wife and kids.

If you’re something like that, go on you because you’re choosing the best thing. The rest of us have got some shit work out. Because if you’ve got nothing special to do and you’d rather stay home…

...to be continued in a moment...

Remember when every opportunity to go out carried possibilities in your mind? Might meet a cute girl. It’ll be more fun than ::insert event here::. Magic was going to happen. Even if it rarely did, each time was an opportunity for it to come to life.

Now you’ve learned those things don’t really happen. You call yourself smart. Or are you just playing the odds? Is it really worth going out and risk a bad time and being annoyed when I’ve got a perfectly fine option at home? This in spite of the fact that you’re older, have more money and thus more control over what the plans are. You evaluate your life like an actuary evaluating the risk.

...continued: People suffering from depression make the same decisions you are.

Exciting things happen at work!

This goes for everyone, I don’t care if you are a base-jumping firefighter who corrals rabid Bengal Tigers for a living. Bare handed. If people ask you how things are and all you have to talk about is what’s going on at work, and not your family and friends and hobbies, you’re not getting excited about a huge part of your life.

But, you think, no one wants to hear about my personal stuff. Okay, first, evaluate that self-image. Then consider: Have you ever listened to someone talk about something they are really excited about? It’s amazing! I don’t care if they’re talking about crocheting, if they are jazzed up about it, it’s fun to hear! Yeah okay maybe you don’t want to hear about it for super-extended periods of time, sure, but no one is suggesting you be a bore. Just ask yourself if you are excited enough about your family, friends, and hobbies that they’re worth telling about.

You suppress smiles.

What the fuck is wrong with you, you monster? There are few feelings better than encountering a random smile and you keep it to yourself because you don’t want to get asked the dreaded “What are you smiling about?” Now the fact that smiling is so rare in this world that it’s actually a moment of curiosity, well that’s for another rant. But if odd little things that happen to you aren’t making you smile upon remembering them, that’s a problem. Now if you want to keep those moments for yourself and not give them away? Cool. Enjoy. But if you’re holding it in because you don’t want to get asked, that person who is asking you is asking because they want to share! You’ve got a chance to actually make someone’s life better in that moment.

There are probably a hundred other things that could be pointed out, but really this is being written in moment and won’t be edited outside of spelling and grammar--oh wait that is one more.

You’re not having random, in the moment fun.

This might be related to the first item above about going out and letting random things happen. But really it’s about singing and dancing in your car, even at stop lights. It’s about running about your house with your arms out pretending you’re a plane. It’s about getting to the bathroom while pretending the floor is lava. Why would anyone do this stuff?

Why WOULDN’T you?

And maybe you’ve got it figured out and you’re happy. If so, all I ask you to consider is the concept of dissonance

And to consider the immortally underrated John Patrick Shanley when it comes to living

And for Pete’s sake give his Joe Vs. the Volcano another look now that you’re older.

Don't waste your fucking life.